Jealousy Is Killing Your Blog!

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It’s something that we’re all guilty of. You’re happy with your blog, until you start looking round. That blogger looks amazing in their outfit posts. That blogger writes such eloquent blog posts. That blogger gets 50 comments on a post where they posted just a photo of a Maccy D’s burger (and yet it looks so beautiful because of their styling!) Why are you even bothering with your blog, you can never make it that amazing?

First – shut that voice up inside your head, because your blog is that amazing! Blogging is wonderful in that it allows us to peek into other peoples lives, but it’s awful because it allows us to peek into what other people want us to see of their lives.

It’s too easy to fall into the trap of comparing yourself to everyone else, but remember that you’re seeing the curated life – most people are hardly going to show you how they really look when they wake up, what they actually ate (a Birds Eye Potato Waffle and beans is never going to look photogenic, but it is pretty delicious (and you probably will sing that jingle when reading this)), and the pyjamas they wear that are faded and have a hole in a dodgy place, but are too comfortable to get rid of.

It can be easy to try to emulate other bloggers (although try not to copy too much!) but what makes your blog interesting to others is you. Show as much of your personality in your blog as you feel comfortable and readers are more likely to remember and return to your blog if you’re not just one of the crowd.

How do you get remind yourself to stay unique?

 

Hayley Constantine

Hayley has been blogging since before most people knew what a blog was! She started Bonjour, Blogger! in May 2013 as a way to share her knowledge and experiences - if you ever have a question, get in touch!

  • Bex Walton

    I’ve only just started blogging properly for myself, having done it for other people 5+ years. I’m yet to experience the green eyed monster when looking at other blogs, although it does give me something to aim for! I guess when you’re only a couple of days you can’t really turn round and think “Why don’t I have 40,000 followers like them?”. I’m quite prone to getting jealous though, so give it time, haha!

    I don’t see any harm in using blogs as inspiration, but I think it’s important you remain unique by remembering WHY you started blogging and WHO you are. If you start talking about something that you’ve seen on another blog, that doesn’t tie in with the why or who, then it’s going to put people off.

    I really enjoyed this post, so thanks a million!

    Bex x

    June 18, 2014 at 12:34 pm Reply
  • Isabel

    It’s exactly how I feel sometimes but what helps me to stay unique is to remind myself that my journey is unique and that I have my own process, shortcomings and challenges to go through. Which at the end of the day will leave me with richer experiences to share and hopefully inspire others instead of keeping the jealousy cycle forever.

    June 18, 2014 at 12:43 pm Reply
  • Michelle

    It’s hard not to compare isn’t it but I think once you head down that road you’re destined for doom (not a hint of hyperbole!) Everyone is unique and so is each and every blog, I guess we should all be celebrating our uniqueness and our bravery at sending our thoughts out into the universe rather than comparing ourselves to others.
    And yes, I’ll be singing about potato waffles for the rest of the day. Merci!
    M x

    June 18, 2014 at 12:48 pm Reply
  • Mrs Teepot

    Very wise words indeed. I am guilty of comparing myself to others all too often, not just when blogging but in general. It’s something I think we need to learn not to do because we’re all awesome as we are

    June 18, 2014 at 2:32 pm Reply
  • Helen Boulos

    Thank you so much for this post. I started blogging very recently, almost on a whim, because my kids thought I should. It seemed easy enough in theory and they wanted me to share my stories. Oh my goodness it is not easy, and sometimes it isn’t fun either. Today my son said “Do you still enjoy this at all? Do you tell your funny stories anymore?” I realized that I am not monetized and I do this because I like to tell stories, and I like shoes, and I wanted a place where I could share both parts of me.

    But you are hitting the nail on the peg when you say we can easily get caught up with what other people posts. In some ways I think I never knew how inadequate I was until I started blogging. Of course that isn’t true, I am not inadequate, but sometimes I feel that way.

    So thank you for this reminder. I wonder if I am brave enough to do a post about our “real mornings.” I think I just may.

    September 7, 2014 at 5:13 pm Reply

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